To make a difference you need three f’s, if you’ll allow me.

Focus, Follow Through and just a pinch of F*ck this Sh*t.

Focus and follow through are pretty uncontentious, I guess.

Hard to do, but they make sense.

F*ck this Sh*t?

Is an essential spice if you want to make an impact.

But F*ck this Sh*t doesn’t mean get into a fight.

It means to notice how power resists the change that is trying to happen.

Keep your eyes on the prize.

You are here for a reason.

It takes respect but not only

It takes respect to make a difference.

Respect for yourself in order to Focus on the change you are here to make.

Respect for the time, energy, and determination that it takes to Follow through.

Respect for the context in which you do your work.

Respect for the others that you will invite into relationship because making a difference is not a solo thing.

But not everything deserves your respect.

Everything belongs.

Everything is interesting, is information, is useful for understanding the bigger flow.

Is part of you.

But sometimes you have to notice where you are holding back, fawning, to the pile up of power and rank.

It takes a pinch of F*ck this Sh*t to bring a new world into being.

Power and rank piles up like a sand bank. Imbalance starts with a slight ripple but pretty soon, with just wind and water, it can grow to a massive hill.

It is natural to seek proximity to power. To want to shelter there.

It is one of our survival instincts.

But just as easily, with an overnight storm, the landscape can shift.

Social power isn’t set it stone

Social power isn’t set in stone for a reason.

Social power is a mechanism of group survival.

The group, our collective being, creates the role of leadership to help the group survive and thrive.

Leadership is intended and granted in order to facilitate the group’s survival.

In that sense, the power of rank, of social hierarchy, always belongs to the group.

It is given and it can be taken away.

The 3 Fs remind you that conflict is part of making a difference.

Without respect, you fall into power struggles.

But without a pinch of F*ck this Sh*t you risk getting lost in the reactions that power has to the change that is trying to happen.

So use the 3 Fs to help you make your difference.

Focus, Follow Through and a bit of F*ck this Sh*t:

To see past the current pile up of rank and how it seeks to maintain itself.

To see how power is trying to flow into a new configuration.

To see beyond the world that exists and into the future that is emerging.

Practice respect with added spice to access your deepest integrity.

Focus, Follow Through and just a pinch of F*ck this Sh*t when you need it.

Make your difference.

You’ve got this.

And the world needs you.

Love

Hellene